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Lesson 1: give yourself permission to be human. When we accept emotions – such as fear, sadness or anxiety – as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.

Lesson 2: happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness boosters, moments throughout the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.

Lesson 3: keep in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well-being is determined by what we choose to focus on and by our interpretation of external events.

Lesson 4: simplify! We are, generally, too busy, trying to squeeze in more and more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much. Knowing when to say ‘no’ to others often means saying ‘yes’ to ourselves.

Lesson 5: remember the mind-body connection. What we do – or don’t do – with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.

Nowadays my days have changed all the time fun and enjoyment since i have moved into this different team Last to last week, I had been to Nagarhole and this week I went to Mudumalai which is near Ooty…was a great trip…

We all 19 employees – team managers, team leaders and hr – all ganged up and set on a 6 hour trip to Mudumalai in the SRS Travels(the worst bus) bus where daaru was infiltrated by pouring it in bisleri bottles and reached to a beautiful place on the borders of Karnataka and Tamil Nadu…we camped in Casa Deep Woods Resort where the beautiful huts were awaiting our accommodation…the drunkards boozed and smoked a lot and the non-drinkers had plain maaza we went for trekking and touched the foot of the Ooty hill…evening we piled up again near the campfire to enjoy the barbeque

The best part was when the new TLs were given a role play by the old TLs whereby they were to enact some situations as to how the different people react to any given situation Next morning, we all got up at 5:30 to enjoy the safari but unfortunately it was the worst safari I have ever had so to make the day spicier, I played badminton and sweated out the extra fat…

Nagarhole is a forest near Mysore and u will be amazed with the serene beauty of the jungle.  If u stand in the jungle for 2minutes in silence, u will feel u r so insignificant in this vast world !!! U can smell the mud, leaves and the natural beauty and the different kinds of sound will make your ears stand for what if its a tiger roaring near u We tried hard to say “hello” to any tiger which we could find but fortunately we could only touch his paw marks with respect.

15 of us had gone in an open jeep safari for continuous 4 hours and was shaken from top to bottom with every li’l bone shifted from its place so many great animals came to meet us like the mighty bison, whole lot of population of stags, elephants, peacock and the fun part was when one of our group said that they saw a turtle jumping into a lake  

We stayed in tent in Jungle Inn Resort and the food was yumm with home made kind of taste. I went for cycling after 15long years – unable to balance it for 3 min and then it was way to go…cycled and cycled in the open air with pollution free breeze touching my face and making my hair flutter I missed out the elephant ride but got a chance to put jaggery in his huge mouth and touched his bums also The bus ride back to Bangalore was also filled with spicy games facilitated by one of my colleague and we all laughed our stomachs out  Overall the trip was fabulous and had a blast.

Saw this movie last Sunday and it really influenced me actually if you ponder; each and every minute influences you…believe it or not! So what does this movie prophesied – “Gandhigiri” which says be truthful to yourself and never let your conscience fall prey to all the ills happening in this world… rather you have the power to change people’s thinking also.

I was watching this movie “If Only” on star movies yesterday and it literally moved my perspective at looking at life…sorry for telling the story but it’s too good. There is this business tycoon – a young handsome guy – who is in love with his work too much…this simple girl comes into her life and she teaches him the real meaning of love….wait wait this is not those usual boring kinds movies… 

There’s a twist to this story as the guy get dreams beforehand about the next day incidents – about his office, about his hiring a cab even and about what might happen…he discusses this to everyone but they all laugh at him and don’t give any serious thoughts…he was the guy for whom work and work was everything…one fine evening, he dreamt of his girlfriend where when both of them hired a cab, at just 11 in the night, their cab would meet with a severe accident and his girlfriend will die !!!  He got shocked of such a worst dream he has ever seen but then he again thought that this might never happen and waived off this from his mind….next morning he went to office and was having a board meeting with 30 officials where again he felt that he has already delivered this speech…anyways, now the best part comes in…he suddenly felt an urge to see his girlfriend and ran outside and hired a cab…as soon as he gets in, he recognizes the driver and asks him “did I hire the same taxi yesterday?” to which the driver said that it would have been possible as he gets so many passengers in a day…then he said “wait a minute, does this mean that you only told me yesterday that love is everything and love as if there is no tomorrow !” so now the driver also recognizes him and says that’s true…so he asks whether what all he has seen, will it come true…now see the irony, this driver is a messenger sent by God… 

He says anything is possible, so just live this day young man as there will be no tomorrow…just appreciate your girl and give her all the love as there will be no tomorrow so this guy runs and runs to all the possible destination where he could find his girl…his mind struck a chord and now he knew where he could find her…he rushes there and there was his girl in a designer store…he immediately asks her if she would go to London with him now and takes her to the airport…the girl is excited and shocked as to what happened to him all of a sudden…they go to the hills and his parents house (his parents are no longer alive)…its pouring heavily outside and he lights fire to the wood at home and stands near the window and cries, tears pouring down his cheeks…his girl asks him r u still remembering the past? No, past is gone and no longer there…its only Now and  Now which matters to him most and wipes off his tears and asks her what would you do if you had only one day to live? What would you all do? That’s a strange question which we even haven’t thought about.. Have you??  

She says she would just live the day with him and give him all the love she can, coz nobody else on this earth matters to her…and my tears rolled down my cheek!!! I can hear you laughing but I do cry at such sad stories….anyway, both of them spent a beautiful day…he talks to her a lot and give her all the attention, Appreciates her and make beautiful love to her…he said lets stay in London only for some more days and avoid going back to US (here he is trying to avoid his dream to become a reality)..but she had a music concert and she has to perform there as it’s the biggest opportunity which she has ever got and she has played violin for 16 long years to become a professional musician…back in hometown, he asks her what gives you the most happiness?  She replies that she dreams of playing her own music and song composed and all the big dignitaries would listen to her and praise her and infact she had written a song also…but that will happen some vague day…the guy thought to do some magic – steals her composition and gets 175 copies done, goes to the music concert long before it was supposed to start, requests the leader if something can be done, distributes he copies to all the fellow musicians and arranges bouquet of flowers to be given to her…the girl arrives and then the usual practiced concert happens and all of a sudden, he comes to stage, and says that my girl has dreamt of a big day and she would sing that song for all of you…she got shocked and tells him that you are in real big trouble after the show…she is nervous and starts off with her song, to her surprise, every other musician has copies of her song and they play great tunes for her…everyone is stunned at her beautiful composition and the lyrics and her voice…they all stood up, applauding her song  

Hahahahaa…yes you read it right in the photo…”grow your own dope, plant a man”  I still coudnt help laughing while writing this …is it true ? if you want your own life to be ruined, then plant a man?? Well, here the plant referred as a man can be of different shades…so depending on the shade, you can either dope yourself or grow hopeful  

You can choose such shades from asian paints, nerolac, etc. – whether only for exterior or interiors only….now don’t run your imagination by the very word exterior and interior what I mean by exterior is you adore such shade which is not only beautiful from exterior (looks) but also strong from the interior (strong character)…but you cant test drive everyone…so here intuition comes into play God gives lot of signals to each one of us but we just keep ignoring, thinking that its weird if we are feeling this…..but if you analyze such intuitions later when the incident has passed, that you realize that yes the little inkling which you got was true to some extent haven’t you come across such things?   Well, I have got so many such inklings bad very often, but good ones are also there (rare though) … So lets complete the phrase – if you wanna grow your own dope by polygamous relationships, then plant a man and count the number of plants you have weeded…sorry for the wrong english “weeded”..but that’s what will be the result in such a situation…too many men will become weeds in your life….so better to sow the seed which will grow into your Forever Man…..then you are definitely not doping but hoping and cultivating a beautiful tree.

There have been so many real love stories where I was a part of all those…i had been a initiator, mediator, counsellor and a Pope also at times….hahahhahaa…yes I had been a Pope in my friend’s lives who arranged the marriages  

Starting right from my childhood days…my classmate,  

Asheema, in Vth standard, had a guy drooling over her madly. Rahul liked her a lot and was serious about Ashi. But as we were all young, so such things had a greater impact on us and she went around with Rahul. Their relationship grew very strong and when Rahul cleared his MBBS entrance exams, he proposed to Ashi for marriage. They discussed in detail about this and Ashi came to conclusion that he being very rich, their parents wont agree for the marriage. So she backed out and started avoiding Rahul and this was the time, she confided in me about the seriousness in this relationship. Now when I see two souls being separate due to silly reasons, I cant take it and with selfless interest, I start playing all the above roles in their life. So finally I got successful and got their marriage done and today both of them are blessed with a beautiful daughter. They have spent 6 beautiful years with each other. God bless them and fill their lives with more and more love each day !  

Rini, another classmate, had a similar story but here the girl was not strong and weak. I tried putting in similar efforts but there were some rude things which she uttered to me, that my ego got hurt and I pulled out from this story and left them to their own destiny. Though God got them married to each other finally, it was just destiny which played a heavier role. 

Shweta is also one of a case. She had a committed relationship with Mrigyen and my role here became that of a counsellor and a mediator in their fights, arguments and ego clashes. Finally they married in a temple and unfortunately lived with each other only for 3 short years. Mrigyen is no more as he died in a car accident. God bless his soul…a big lesson which I learnt in this story that you should never take each other for granted and don’t waste your time in arguments, jealousy or putting blames on each other. Rather work on your relationship with maturity and value this beautiful love God brought in your life. 

Jaya, the black beauty, and my hostelmate, had a huge crush on her colleague but was not sure whether he likes her too. So I came into the big picture and became a motivator and gave strong wind to both of their feelings for each other finally both of them acknowledged their love for each other and got married, inspite of opposition from their parents though tied the knot only when both parents side were convinced about the betterment of these souls. 

Yesterday I was cleaning my book shelf when I spotted my old subscriptions of Cosmopolitan mag and came across this cute article, so thought to share it with you all.  Tiny Things that Blow his Mind 

Your guy may not sob at sappy movies, but he has a softie side too. Even the toughest guy you know has tenderness triggers. These magic manouevres reduce the mightiest of men to a mush ball. Discover the unexpected triggers that bring out the softer side and super-glue your love bond. “Every time you treat him to special little gesture, you renew your spark and build greater feeling of intimacy.” This is what some of the guys recalled as the moments when their girls melted their hearts : 

The way she diligently picks off olives from my pizzas and salads before I can bite into them because I cant stand them, shows me just how much she cares.Whenever she fights with me, she comes up with the weirdest accusations you can possibly think of. Instead of getting angry with her, I find the whole thing very stimulating. In fact, it is always a prelude to a greater time ahead. I melt every time she cries at the end of a mushy movie. Seeing her eyes fill up and her nose beetroot red, makes me want to give her a big hug. 

She normally dresses up neat when we go out. But there are days when she calls me to ask what I want her to wear. I pick outfits that make her look like a bomb. It makes me feel very special. I’m hardly ever in office and always on the move. I get all these missed calls from my girlfriend but don’t get a chance to talk to her. When I finally call her back, she demands to know where I’ve been and promptly reminds me that it’s the firt time we’ve spoken all day. Its great that she cares so much. 

Whenever my girl is about to sneeze, she wont do it out loud – she’ll swallow it instead. I find this habit really adorable. When my girl is pissed about something, she’ll sit me down and start telling me all the little details. Just the fact that she chooses to share all her problems makes me feel special. 

My wife is Clint Eastwood tough, she sneers at romance, believes that displays of affection are a feony and says “I love you” reluctantly, that too only after a few shots of whisky. But once in a while, she has a bad day. We will be walking down a street and she will, in a moment of utter weakness, hold my hand. People walking past me wonder about the strange sound I’m making. It’s my heart singing. Every night, she switches off her reading light before me. I almost always sleep about an hour later. But right through this period, I have to read in the most handicapped way because one of my hands has to be with hers. She sleeps with her head on my palm, and her arms entwined through mine. This really gets me going – I love to watch her sleeping blissfully holding my hand. 

When my girl makes coffee for me, and she takes a sip before giving it to me to make sure the taste is ok. Arent these cute nothings ??  

When my girl makes coffee for me, and she takes a sip before giving it to me to make sure the taste is ok. Arent these cute nothings ??